Still Connected

A Monthly Group for Remembering, Honouring and Carrying Forward the People We Love

£25 per workshop

When someone dies, their physical presence is gone, but our connection with them often continues. We may still think about them when something happens in our day. We may find ourselves wanting to tell them something and reach for our phones. We may notice habits, values or expressions that came from them. We may continue to make decisions influenced by what they taught us.

For a long time, grief was often understood as a process of letting go. The assumption was that healthy grieving meant gradually detaching from the person who died and reinvesting in life elsewhere.

Many bereaved people do not experience grief that way. Instead, they find themselves trying to answer a different question. How do I continue living while keeping this person in my life?

Still Connected is a monthly online group for people who want space to explore that question. It is a place to remember, reflect, tell stories, share memories and consider how life can move forward alongside grief and loved ones, not moving on without them.

Who This Group Is For

This group is for people who still want to talk about the person who died, still feel connected to them, and remember them with others. Many bereaved people tell me that, after the funeral and the first few months, opportunities to speak about their loved one become increasingly rare. Other people assume they have moved on, and grief and loved ones are no longer talked about. We know that we don't move on. You likely still think about them every day. You may find yourself wondering what they would think about something that has happened. You may notice their influence in your values, your habits or the way you approach life.

This group creates space for those experiences. It is particularly suited to people who are interested in memory, meaning, legacy, family stories, and the ways in which relationships continue to evolve after death.

What This Group Is Not

This group is not therapy, and it is not a crisis support service.

While grief will naturally be part of our conversations, the focus is not primarily on emotional processing or exploring the circumstances of a death. The focus is on the ongoing relationship.

Together, we explore the ways people continue to influence our lives after they have died. We explore memory, meaning, identity, family stories, values, traditions and legacy.

Participants are welcome to talk about grief, but grief is not the sole focus.

The focus is also on love, connection and the continuing impact of the people we have lost.

Why Continuing Bonds Matter

For much of the twentieth century, grief theories often suggested that healthy grieving involved letting go of the person who died. Research over the last several decades has increasingly recognised that maintaining an ongoing connection with a loved one can be a healthy and meaningful part of grief. This is often referred to as continuing bonds.

Continuing bonds can take many forms. It might be telling their stories, cooking their recipes, following values they taught us, visiting places that remind us of them or noticing their influence in the choices we make. For some people, it simply means continuing an inner relationship with the person they love.

Still Connected provides an opportunity to explore what that relationship looks like now and how it continues to shape your life.

What Happens Each Month

Each month we explore a different aspect of remembrance, connection and continuing bonds.

Each session lasts two hours and follows a similar structure while exploring a different monthly theme.

We begin with a gentle grounding or orienting practice to help participants arrive and settle into the space. Grief can leave us feeling pulled in many directions, and this opening practice provides an opportunity to slow down and become present.

Participants are then invited to check in with the group. This creates an opportunity to connect with others and be heard before the evening's theme is introduced.

Each month includes a short teaching or reflection connected to the theme. Drawing on grief theory, coaching approaches and lived experience, this section introduces ideas and questions that participants can explore in relation to their own lives.

Participants are then guided through a coaching and reflective activity designed to deepen understanding of the topic. Depending on the theme, this may involve journalling, mindful photography, creative exercises, values exploration, storytelling, coaching questions or other reflective practices. The focus is not on finding the right answer but on developing insight, awareness and clarity.

A significant part of the session is devoted to the sharing circle. Participants are invited to share reflections, experiences and discoveries from the activity while learning from the experiences of others. Listening is considered just as valuable as speaking, and there is never any pressure to contribute more than feels comfortable.

The session closes with a simple ritual, grounding practice or reflective exercise connected to the theme. This provides an opportunity to acknowledge what has been explored, gather any insights from the evening and return to everyday life with intention.

The group is designed as a drop-in programme, meaning you do not need to attend every month. Each session stands alone while contributing to a broader exploration of remembrance, meaning, identity, purpose and life after loss.

A significant part of the session is devoted to sharing stories, memories and reflections. Participants are welcome to speak, listen or engage in whatever way feels right for them.

You may occasionally be invited to bring a photograph, object, memory, piece of music or story connected to your person.

Each session is designed to help participants remember the person they love while also reflecting on how that relationship continues to shape their life today.

Groups are held on Zoom.

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Monthly themes

Please email me for more information or upcoming dates.