Coaching courses
A six-week coaching programme exploring your relationship with grief and the connections that can change after someone dies.
Grief impacts our relationships with the person who died, ourselves, other people and life itself. Being in Relationship with Grief is a six-week group coaching programme that gives you time to explore some of this more intentionally. Each week we'll look at a different relationship that can be affected by grief, using coaching questions, discussion, grief education, reflection and creative practices to help you notice what is happening for you and consider what you want your relationship with grief and your life to look like.
There isn't a particular place you're expected to reach by the end, and the programme isn't about resolving your grief or following a prescribed way of grieving. It is somewhere to be curious about your own experience, discover what feels important to you and explore your own ways of living alongside grief.
This programme is for adults who have experienced the death of someone important to them and would like some dedicated time to explore their grief. It may be particularly useful if the immediate aftermath of the bereavement has passed.
Your relationship with the person who died does not need to have been straightforward or loving. There is room for complicated relationships, anger, regret, relief, estrangement, unfinished business and mixed feelings, as well as love and longing.
You don't need to arrive knowing what you want to change, and there is no expectation that you will share anything you would rather keep private.
We begin by becoming curious about how you currently relate to your grief. When do you make room for it and when do you move away from it? What helps you spend time with it? What feels difficult? Does grief seem to have too much space in your life, not enough, or does that change from day to day? We'll also begin exploring grief tending and what intentionally giving grief some attention might look like for you.
Death changes a relationship, but that doesn't necessarily mean the relationship ends. We'll explore what you miss, what you have taken from the relationship, what may feel unfinished and what a continuing connection might mean and look like.
Grief can affect how we experience ourselves without necessarily changing everything about who we are. We'll explore what has changed, what grief may have revealed and what has remained. This might include identity, roles, confidence, needs, beliefs, values and parts of yourself that have become harder to recognise or access since the person died.
Bereavement can change friendships, families and other relationships in ways we didn't anticipate. Some people become closer, others disappear, and different ways of grieving can create misunderstandings. We'll map your own relationship landscape and explore what feels supportive, what feels difficult, where you may be doing more relational work than you want to, what belongs to you and what doesn't, and whether there is anything you want to do differently.
Grief can change our assumptions about life, our priorities and our relationship with the future. This session isn't about creating a new life or deciding that you're ready to move on. We'll explore what still interests you, what has become more or less important, what gives you pleasure or curiosity, what you want more of, and how you might want to participate in life while grief remains part of it.
In our final session we'll return to the relationships we've explored — grief, the person who died, yourself, other people and life — and notice what has emerged across the six weeks. You'll create your own Connection Map, reflecting on what feels important now, what you might want to tend, what you're happy to leave alone, what you're curious about and where you have choices. You don't need to leave with an action plan. The final question is simply: how do I want to be in relationship with my grief now?
Being in Relationship with Grief is coaching, not counselling or psychotherapy. I'll bring questions, perspectives, grief education and practices for us to explore, but I won't tell you what your grief should look like or what you should do with it. You remain the person who decides what fits, what doesn't and where you want to go next.
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